I'm not convinced that "happiness" is a necessary constant in order
for someone to stay married. Happiness often is a byproduct of wise
choices made on the part of both people in a marriage. Yet, even then, there
are some days when we feel happy and days when we don't, for any number of
reasons. (Sometimes, the reasons can even be hormonal.)
Is it our spouse's job to make us happy? If we approach our marriage in
that way, we will become demanding tyrants, contributing to misery of
the very person the WE CHOSE to marry. What should be our focus on any given
day?
Greater love hath no man/woman than this that he lays down his life for his
friend. It comes back to Christ's perfect example, of laying aside his own rights and desires and seeking to serve
those He loved. This is how to treat the person we have vowed to love
for better or for worse...... for happiness or for unhappiness.
If I were to make a "happiness chart" of my own marriage, it would look
like the Himalayan Mountain range. Nonetheless, the fine wine of a lasting
marriage grows deeper and more valuable with each passing day.
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